I sent this to someone who’s angry with me due to some professional matter we debated. A colleague thought it would be worth showing you, too. So, for whatever it’s worth:

I will say this. I don’t want anyone to feel bad about me, or about my behavior, or about themselves. I can live with that, but I don’t want it.

So, if there is something simple I can do to help people feel better, and it does not require me to tell a lie, then I am willing to do so.

I want people to excel at their craft and be happy. That’s actually what is motivating me, underneath all my arguing.